Heal the past patterns
that sabotage your relationships
and create healthier, more loving connections.
A gentle, structured 12-week MAP program to help you understand, release, and transform
relationship patterns in a way that feels safe and sustainable.
Designed to be gentle, structured, and doable — even if relationships feel overwhelming right now.
Are you longing for love that feels easier… more balanced, healthy, and compatible?
You may have done everything “right.”
Read the books. Invested in therapy or coaching. Worked on yourself deeply.
And yet, you still find yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, repeating familiar relationship dynamics, feeling disconnected, unseen, or unfulfilled.
Maybe you’ve explored attachment styles, codependency, or healing from past relationship wounds — and while you’ve gained insight, the same patterns keep resurfacing.
If this feels familiar, there’s something important to know:
It’s not because you’re broken.
You are already whole, worthy, and lovable.
What creates difficulty in relationships are learned protective patterns — beliefs, emotional responses, and behaviors that once helped you cope. These patterns often form early in life or through past relationships, and they quietly shape who we’re drawn to and how we respond in connection.
Even when we understand these patterns, they can persist — because they live deeper than conscious insight.
And that’s not your fault.
A different approach
Real, lasting change happens when we work at the level where these patterns are stored — in the nervous system and subconscious mind. Alongside relationship education and coaching, this program uses the MAP Method — a gentle, neuroscience-informed approach designed to help the mind naturally release outdated emotional imprints and beliefs at the root.
Rather than forcing change or reliving old stories, MAP allows your system to relax and do what it’s designed to do: reorganize, integrate, and heal. As old patterns soften, your choices, responses, and relationships begin to shift — often with far less effort than you might expect.
Here’s what a few participants have shared about their experience with the MAP Method and the Returning to Love program.
Reflections from participants
What people are saying about Returning to Love
As people create more internal safety, many notice shifts — in how they relate to themselves, how they show up in relationships, and how love begins to feel.
“For more than a month now, I’ve been able to go outside for walks without my cane — daily, and often twice a day. It’s a real joy to walk on my own two legs again. For many years, I could only manage a few steps, and now I’m comfortably walking for 30 minutes or more. This has brought so much joy into my daily life.”
— Marrielle L.
“I decided to join the program because I was waking up each morning with anxiety, without really knowing why. Over time, I began to feel calmer and more at ease in my body, and I was relieved by changes I noticed in myself. I especially love listening to the subliminals early each morning before getting out of bed. I plan to continue — simply because it feels supportive. Thank you, Jelena.”
— Michelle C.
Individual experiences vary. These reflections are shared with permission.
THE OVERVIEW
A 12-Week Journey to Healthier Love — Built Step by Step
This program is designed to help you understand your relationship patterns, release what keeps repeating, and build new ways of connecting that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable.
What you’ll gain
- Get clarity on the patterns in your relationships — and the beliefs underneath them
- Use MAP sessions to gently neutralize old self-protective reactions
- Magnetize new choices and behaviors that support healthy love
- Build internal safety so intimacy can feel natural again
- Begin returning to your fullest capacity for connection and trust
Inside the program, you’ll receive:
- 12 guided video lessons focused on healing core relationship patterns
- Pre-recorded MAP sessions designed specifically for relational healing
- Magnetizations, worksheets, and practices to support integration
- Self-awareness tools to deepen insight and clarity
- A private, supported community
- Optional payment plans and discounted 1:1 MAP support
The Full 12-Week Journey
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Week 0 - Get Started!
10 lessons- Welcome Video!
- Consent Form and Disclaimers
- Directory Of MAP sessions
- How to Navigate the Program
- Fill Out The "Before" Survey
- Ten tips for getting the most out of this program
- Set an intention for the course
- How to get the most out of MAP sessions
- What if you are feeling a lot of new and/or difficult feelings after a MAP session?
- Join our private Facebook Group
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If You Are New To MAP, Do This!
1 lesson- Watch this if you have not yet done a MAP Session
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Some pre-work to get to know yourself a little better!
4 lessons- Ebook on Attachment
- Take the Attachment Style Quiz
- Are you an empath? Take the quiz
- The Empath and Narcissist Relationship
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Repeat Throughout The Course
16 lessons- Guided Inquiry for Uncovering Beliefs and Understanding Feelings
- Practices for Regulating the Nervous System
- MAP On The Go
- How To Do a Tree Magnetization
- Meditation to open the heart
- Write A Letter To Your Beloved
- Magnetize Your Ideal Partner and Relationship
- Magnetize - I deserve love!
- Magnetize - Creating the Love I Want (New 2023)
- Magnetize - Loving All Aspects of Myself (new 2023)
- MAP Session - General (use for any topic)
- MAP Visualize and Align with an Intention, Desire or Goal
- MAP Session for Soothing Parts
- MAP Session to Support Integration and Identity Shifts
- MAP Session to Tune Up Your Chakras for Love
- Mirror Exercise - Learning Self Love and Acceptance
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Worksheets
9 lessons- Your MAP Belief Tracker
- WEEK #1 - The Relationship Timeline
- WEEK #2 - The Family Worksheet
- WEEK #3 - Deeper Questions to Unravel Your Patterns
- WEEK #4 - New Identity Worksheet
- WEEK #8 - Staying Conscious In Conflict Worksheet
- WEEK #10 - Rewiring Attraction!
- Values Inventory
- WEEK #11 - Resolving the Past
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Subliminal MAP Session
2 lessons- Subliminal MAP Session - Soothing Piano Music
- Subliminal MAP Session - with Rain Sounds
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Week 1 - Identifying our Patterns
3 lessons- Week 1 Content - Introduction to Relationship Patterns
- Week 1 MAP Session - It Can Change and Acceptance (2023)
- Week 1 MAP Session - Acceptance
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Week 2 - Identifying our Family Influences
4 lessons- Week 2 Content - Family Influences
- Week 2 MAP Session - The Role(s) You Took On In Your Family of Origin (2024)
- Week 2 MAP Session - Memory of a Parent
- MAP Shame, Guilt, Inadequacy
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Week 3 - Exploring our Early Attachment Patterns
7 lessons- Assessing our own attachment style
- Dyan's 2023 Presentation - Attachment Styles
- Week 3 Content - Attachment Styles
- MAP Big Feelings (Insecure Attachment) (2023)
- MAP session on insecure attachment
- Week 3 MAP Session - Expanding capacity
- Extra MAP Session - Neediness is Bad
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Week 4 - How safe do you feel in the world and with others?
5 lessons- Week 4 Content - Unsafety in Relationships
- Week 4 Powerpoint Slides- Unsafety (2022)
- MAP - Unsafety
- MAP - Unsafety (2023)
- Week 4 MAP Session - unsafety
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Week 5 - Explore relationship to self; how does impact relationship to others?
6 lessons- Week 5 Content - Relationship to Self
- Week 5 - Powerpoint Slides
- Week 5 MAP Session - I'm unloved or unlovable
- Week 5 MAP Session - Willing to Love Myself (2023)
- MAP Session - I'm Unlovable
- Extra MAP Session - I don't deserve love
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Week 6 - Am I Enough?
5 lessons- Week 6 Content - Am I Enough?
- Week 6 - Powerpoint Slides
- Week 6 MAP - I'm Not Enough
- MAP Session - I am not enough
- Week 6 MAP Session - I'm Not Enough (new 2023)
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MID-POINT CHECK IN
1 lesson- Mid Point Check In!
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Week 7 - Codependency versus Taking Charge of My Own Happiness
5 lessons- Week 7 Content - Codependency
- Week 7 - Powerpoint Slides
- Week 7 - MAP and Magnetization Session
- MAP Session - I Can't Stand It When Someone is Uncomfortable
- Week 7 - MAP Transform a Behavior (New 2023)
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BONUS MODULE - Inner Critic
1 lesson- Practice and MAP - Quieting the Inner Critic
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Week 8 - Shift Fear of Conflict to Healthy Disagreement
6 lessons- Week 8 Content - Shifting Our Fear of Conflict
- Week 8 - Powerpoint Slides
- MAP Session - Fear of conflict
- Week 8 MAP Session - Conflict is Dangerous
- Week 8 MAP - Transforming Fears of Conflict (New - 2023)
- BONUS MAP Session MAP Conflict leads to rejection abandonment with visualization
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Week 9 - Taking Things Personally and Fear of Rejection
6 lessons- Week 9 Content Video - Stop Taking Things Personally!
- Week 9 - Powerpoint Slides
- MAP Criticism is painful
- Week 9 - MAP Session - Not Taking Things Personally (New - 2023)
- EXTRA MAP Session on "Rejection Means I'm Not Good Enough"
- EXTRA MAP Session - I need other people's approval
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Week 10 - Rewiring Attraction
5 lessons- Week 10 Content - Understanding and Transforming Attraction!
- Week 10 - Powerpoint Slides
- Week 10 MAP Session - It (Attraction, Patterns, Beliefs) Can Change (New 2023)
- Week 10 MAP Session - Developing a New Capacity
- MAP Session - I can/want to/am willing to transform a behavior or aspect
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Week 11 - Rewrite the Past
7 lessons- Week 11 Content - Resolve and Rewrite The Past
- Working with Grief and Loss
- MAP Session Letting Go Of a Relationship
- Week 11 MAP Session- Rewriting the Past
- BONUS MAP Session - Not Safe To Be Me and Ideal State Magnetization
- BONUS MAP Session - Forgiveness
- Week 11 MAP Session- Unconditional Self Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness (New 2023)
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Week 12 - Rewriting our Future
3 lessons- Week 12 MAP Session - Aligning with Our Intention
- MAP session - Aligning with My Soul's Intention and Opening to Love
- MAP Session - Align with New Identity and Surrender It (New 2023)
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Continuing The Journey
1 lesson- What's Next???
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Bonus Live Sessions
2 lessons- Live Session Dec 20, 2025
- MAP Session Dec 20, 2025 - Change is Possible - My New Identity
How it works
How the Returning to Love Program Works
A clear, supported path — designed to help you build internal safety, release repeating patterns, and practice healthier ways of connecting in love.
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Get oriented + grounded
Start with simple foundations that help you identify your patterns, create safety, and feel ready for the relationship shifts ahead.
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Clear what keeps repeating
Use guided MAP sessions to release old emotional imprints and protective beliefs — without forcing change or reliving the past.
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Practice healthier connection
Each week adds practical relationship insight — communication, boundaries, intimacy, and secure attachment — so new choices become natural.
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Integrate + stabilize change
Reinforcement tools help your system consolidate the shifts — so you don’t just understand love differently, you experience it differently.
What you’ll get inside the program
- Clear weekly guidance so you always know what to focus on next
- Guided MAP sessions to neutralize old relational patterns at the root
- Integration tools that help changes stick (without forcing)
- A structured experience designed to feel safe, gentle, and doable
“For more than a month now, I’ve been able to go outside for walks without my cane — daily, and often twice a day. It’s a real joy to walk on my own two legs again. For many years, I could only manage a few steps, and now I’m comfortably walking for 30 minutes or more. This has brought so much joy into my daily life.”
Samantha Bentley
Client Details
“For more than a month now, I’ve been able to go outside for walks without my cane — daily, and often twice a day. It’s a real joy to walk on my own two legs again. For many years, I could only manage a few steps, and now I’m comfortably walking for 30 minutes or more. This has brought so much joy into my daily life.”
Samantha Bentley
Client Details
Imagine what could change
Relationships don’t have to feel this hard.
What if there were another way forward?
Before
Feeling stuck in repeating patterns
- Attracting the same types of partners, even when you want something different
- Feeling anxious, disconnected, or unsure of yourself in relationships
- Questioning your worth or wondering what you’re doing wrong
- Trying to “work on yourself,” but still feeling stuck
- Wanting closeness, yet feeling unsafe or guarded when it appears
Even with insight and effort, something deeper doesn’t seem to shift.
After
Relating with more clarity and ease
- Understanding your patterns without judgment or self-blame
- Feeling calmer and more grounded in connection
- Responding instead of reacting in moments of intimacy or conflict
- Making relationship choices that align with your values
- Experiencing closeness that feels safer and more sustainable
Not because you’ve fixed yourself, but because you’re working with your patterns instead of fighting them.
Returning to Love offers a clear, supportive path forward: helping you understand your patterns, release what no longer serves you, and create relationships that feel safer and more fulfilling.
Explore The Program OptionsChoose your starting point
Return to Love — Your Program Options
Start with the free preview to experience the method — or join the full 12-week journey for the deepest, most complete transformation.
Returning to Love Full Program
$1,197
One-time payment • Lifetime access • Self-paced
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Learn From the Best
Dyan Ferguson
If you’re tired of repeating the same relationship patterns, Dyan is the kind of guide who helps you break the cycle — not with more effort, but with deeper rewiring.
With 20 years of meditation and mindfulness practice and advanced relationship coaching training through Katherine Woodward Thomas’ work in Conscious Uncoupling and Calling In The One, Dyan brings real expertise to the Returning to Love journey.
In 2020, she discovered the MAP Healing Process and recognized it as the missing ingredient — the ability to clear what’s driving attraction and self-protection at the root. She has since supported clients in making deep, lasting changes — and she teaches from lived practice, not theory.
Today, she is a Certified MAP Practitioner and a Breakthrough Expert and Intuition Coach for the MAP Coaching Institute.
Explore the Program OptionsReal Students. Real Relief.
Messages shared by participants during and after the Returning To Love program.
If you’re ready for something different, this is where it begins.
Start with the free preview — or step into the full Returning to Love journey.
Explore The Program OptionsFrequently Asked Questions
If you don’t see your question here, scroll down to the “Still have questions?” section — we’re happy to help.
What if I’m single, dating, or in a relationship?
Is this a replacement for therapy or medical treatment?
Do I need to talk about or relive past trauma?
What if I’m emotionally sensitive or easily overwhelmed?
What if I’ve never done a MAP session before?
What is the refund policy?
Still have questions?
If something isn’t covered here, reach out — our support team is happy to help you find clarity.
Prefer email? You can reach Dyan at
[email protected]
Take Charge of Your Relationship Future
Returning to Love offers a clear, supported path to help you understand your patterns, release what no longer serves you, and create relationships that feel healthier, safer, and more fulfilling.
Whether you begin with the free preview or step into the full 12-week journey, you’ll be supported every step of the way.
Begin The Returning To Love JourneyNot sure yet? You’re welcome to reach out — our team is here to help you decide what feels right.
